Female pleasure runs deep. It’s varied, complex and as individual as a fingerprint, and understanding your unique anatomy is key to unlocking your pleasure for life. And you might think you know what turns you on and gets you off – but once you learn what’s really under the hood, get ready for turbocharged orgasm power. To this day, women report experiencing much less pleasure with partnered sex than their male partners. That phenomenon is known as the “pleasure gap”, and closing that gap is one of the main reasons why Bawdee exists. We designed our range of sexual wellness products to support female pleasure in all its forms, and encourage you to discover your unique capacity for deep and satisfying sexual intimacy.
Knowledge is power
Even if you consider yourself pretty clit-savvy, there’s always more to learn. So make sure you have your toys at the ready and your lube locked and loaded – we think you’ll want to start exploring right away.
The health benefits of orgasm
We could talk about evolutionary biology and the “reasons” for orgasms all day long, but honestly, we don’t think anyone should need a reason to feel really good. Our bodies’ orgasmic potential is one of nature’s great gifts to us, and we honour both nature and ourselves by knowing ourselves and what feels oh-so-good. But if you need even more reasons to make sure your pleasure is supported, orgasms also come with some pretty impressive wellness benefits.
Orgasms have been shown to:
- Help with sleep
- Improve mood and feelings of closeness with a partner
- Help circulation
- Relieve stress and anxiety
- Boost immune function
- Regulate menstrual cycles
- Help with pain, including menstrual cramps
The clitoris revealed
The complete anatomy of the clitoris was not discovered until 1998 by Dr. Helen O'Connel, an Australian urologist, whose work revealed the true structure of the clitoris for the first time. Although many others had documented the existence of a complex organ or system of organs distributed throughout the female genitalia – with a shape “part penguin, part insect, part spaceship”, according to Scientific American – Dr. O’Connell was the first to say “yep, those are all parts of the clitoris. And nope, it’s not just the part you can see.” Her discoveries confirmed what people in female bodies have known for a long, long time.
80% of people with female sexual organs need direct clitoral stimulation to climax. That’s just a fact, and thankfully, more of us are becoming more aware of it! For too long, too many people have believed that penetration alone “should” be enough for orgasm to happen – which may be a key reason why the pleasure gap still exists. But many of us can orgasm from G-Spot stimulation or penetration alone, or we have our best orgasms from a combination of clitoral stimulation and penetration. A few of us can even orgasm from anal stimulation, because that's just another way to stimulate the clitoris. And the complex structure of the clitoris, with its wide and deep distribution of nerves throughout the pelvic area, may be a key player in all the orgasms we have.
That large, wishbone-shaped, mostly-internal organ has “wings” that extend along the pubic bone and back around the opening of the vagina. (The lower wings contribute to the swelling and heightened sensation of arousal.) That’s a lot of nerve endings, distributed pretty widely throughout the pelvis. And there are plenty of ways to stimulate them, beyond stroking the clitoral shaft and head. When you massage anywhere in the genital region, including inside the vagina, or even if you simply contract and release your pelvic floor muscles, you’re actually stimulating the clitoris – which is everywhere. So if your orgasms are elusive, forget everything you know about what “should” work. Explore the full spectrum of pleasurable sensations your body creates, without having a goal or expectation.
Come again
Intimacy and pleasure lie at the heart of overall wellbeing. Whether you’re learning about yourself, looking to connect with a partner, or merely curious about bringing more pleasure into your life, Bawdee is here to support you every step of the way. Explore our range of pleasure essentials here. If you don’t reach orgasm reliably, that is just fine! Again, there’s nothing wrong with you, and pursuing pleasure without an end goal in mind is the key. Sex is a skill that can be learned and improved with time and practice. Just remember that it’s never too late to learn what turns you on and gets you off, and as we all learned in 1998, there’s so much under the surface that’s still to be discovered.
